When you next catch up with the Joneses, you probably won’t ask whether they have anal sex. But you might be curious! I know this because some of the most popular questions on the survey site Noones Normal are:
- Have you had anal sex with your current partner?
- How frequently do you have anal sex with your partner, if ever?
So let’s look at the statistics. Based on 11,000 responses in Noones Normal, about 45% of couples have tried anal sex. This is broadly in line with other studies, which generally cite the prevalence of anal sex increasing dramatically from 20-25% in the early 1990s, to 40-45% by 2011. Even in the last two years, Noones Normal has observed a steady increase in people saying they’ve tried it.
We’re not going at it like rabbits though (assuming rabbits even engage in this). The chart below shows that only 13% of us have done it more than 10 times. So for most couples who try it, it seems to be an activity strictly for special occasions of a one-off experiment.
How about people who want to have anal sex? Are a bunch of us frustratedly trying to persuade our mates to give it a shot? Are there couples where both parties want to try, but each are too afraid to broach the topic? This is where the results of Testing the Waters come in. This is a site that separately asks both the guy and the girl whether they want to try something…in this case anal sex. They can respond with yes, no, or neutral. It turns out that a whopping 62% of guys wanted to try anal sex, with a further 21% being neutral to the idea. Add those two numbers together, and you get something a lot higher than the 45% of couples that have actually done it! Not surprisingly, the barrier (no pun intended) comes from the girl. The number of girls answering “yes” to the question “do you want to have anal sex?” was a much lower 38%, with a further 23% being neutral.
We probably don’t discuss anal sex compatibility on our first date, but nevertheless, we tend to be drawn to those who have similar views to ourselves. If you’re a girl, and you want to try anal sex, there is an 94% chance that the guy wants to try it too, or is at least open to the idea. As you can see from the chart below, there are very few relationships where just the girl wants to try it. For guys, it’s a bit more of a crapshoot (no pun intended). If you want to try it, there is a 52% that the girl wants to give it a go, and a 24% chance that she is at least neutral to the idea. This is still a higher chance than you’d get with the average girl plucked from the population, because we tend tend to attract (and be attracted to) those with a similar view to ourselves. But as with many kinks, there are still a sizeable number of relationships where only the guy is interested.